What is exactly self-care and do you love yourself enough to practice self-care?
As Lauren Jarvis-Gibson, writes:
“Self-care is often a very unbeautiful thing.” Commonly, self-care is associated with
“doing the ugliest thing that you have to do, like sweat through yet another workout, or tell a toxic friend you don’t want to see them anymore, or get a second job so you can have a savings account, or figure out a way to accept yourself so that you’re not constantly exhausted from trying to be everything, all the time.”
Self-care should not be something we resort to because we are so absolutely exhausted that we need some reprieve from our own relentless internal pressure.”
It often means looking your failures and disappointments square in the eye and re-strategizing. It is not satiating your immediate desires. It is letting go. It is choosing new. It is disappointing some people. It is making sacrifices for others. It is living a way that other people won’t, so maybe you can live in a way that other people can’t.
It is letting yourself be normal. Regular. Unexceptional. It is sometimes having a dirty kitchen and deciding your ultimate goal in life isn’t going to be having abs and keeping up with your fake friends. It is deciding how much of your anxiety comes from not actualizing your latent potential, and how much comes from the way you were being trained to think before you even knew what was happening.
If you find yourself having to regularly indulge in consumer self-care, it’s because you are disconnected from actual self-care, which has very little to do with “treating yourself” and a whole lot do with parenting yourself and making choices for your long-term wellness.
It is no longer using your hectic and unreasonable life as justification for self-sabotage in the form of liquor and procrastination. It is learning how to stop trying to “fix yourself” and start trying to take care of yourself… and maybe finding that taking care lovingly attends to a lot of the problems you were trying to fix in the first place.
It means being the hero of your life, not the victim. It means rewiring what you have until your everyday life isn’t something you need therapy to recover from. It is no longer choosing a life that looks good over a life that feels good. It is giving the hell up on some goals, so you can care about others. It is being honest even if that means you aren’t universally liked. It is meeting your own needs, so you aren’t anxious and dependent on other people.
It is becoming the person you know you want and are meant to be. Someone who knows that salt baths and chocolate cake are ways to enjoy life – not escape from it. ”
I believe the first step to self-care is to PAUSE frequently during the day to reflect, regroup, reframe your mind and open your soul.
And that can be a hard thing to do. We all get so wrapped up in the hustle and bustle of life, being pulled into every which direction. Our heads are filled with lists, errands, work, family and the chaos of everyday life…
Most of us have every intention to take better care of ourselves and add gratitude, awareness and meaningful moments to our busy days…but time slips away. How can we remember to remember to pause?
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